Subira - Black feminist - Pesky Dame - She/her pronouns - Queer - Big ol' lefty - Survivor - etc.

 

soulofacityy:

i’ve noticed that a lot of people confuse “respects women” with “respects women they consider respectable”.  

explore-blog:

Ann Friedman's Disapproval Matrix for handling criticism is a thing of genius, not to mention essential internet-age literacy. She explains:

Critics: These are smart people who know something about your field. They are taking a hard look at your work and are not loving it. You’ll probably want to listen to what they have to say, and make some adjustments to your work based on their thoughtful comments.
Lovers: These people are invested in you and are also giving you negative but rational feedback because they want you to improve. Listen to them, too.
Frenemies: Ooooh, this quadrant is tricky. These people really know how to hurt you, because they know you personally or know your work pretty well. But at the end of the day, their criticism is not actually about your work—it’s about you personally. And they aren’t actually interested in a productive conversation that will result in you becoming better at what you do. They just wanna undermine you. Dishonorable mention goes to The Hater Within, aka the irrational voice inside you that says you suck, which usually falls into this quadrant. Tell all of these fools to sit down and shut up.
Haters: This is your garden-variety, often anonymous troll who wants to tear down everything about you for no rational reason. Folks in this quadrant are easy to write off because they’re counterproductive and you don’t even know them. Ignore! Engaging won’t make you any better at what you do. And then rest easy, because having haters is proof your work is finding a wide audience and is sparking conversation. Own it.
The general rule of thumb? When you receive negative feedback that falls into one of the top two quadrants—from experts or people who care about you who are engaging with and rationally critiquing your work—you should probably take their comments to heart. When you receive negative feedback that falls into the bottom two quadrants, you should just let it roll off your back and just keep doin’ you.

Complement with Benjamin Franklin’s trick for neutralizing critics, Daniel Dennett on how to criticize with kindness, and Anne Lamott’s definitive manifesto for handling haters.

explore-blog:

Ann Friedman's Disapproval Matrix for handling criticism is a thing of genius, not to mention essential internet-age literacy. She explains:

Critics: These are smart people who know something about your field. They are taking a hard look at your work and are not loving it. You’ll probably want to listen to what they have to say, and make some adjustments to your work based on their thoughtful comments.

Lovers: These people are invested in you and are also giving you negative but rational feedback because they want you to improve. Listen to them, too.

Frenemies: Ooooh, this quadrant is tricky. These people really know how to hurt you, because they know you personally or know your work pretty well. But at the end of the day, their criticism is not actually about your work—it’s about you personally. And they aren’t actually interested in a productive conversation that will result in you becoming better at what you do. They just wanna undermine you. Dishonorable mention goes to The Hater Within, aka the irrational voice inside you that says you suck, which usually falls into this quadrant. Tell all of these fools to sit down and shut up.

Haters: This is your garden-variety, often anonymous troll who wants to tear down everything about you for no rational reason. Folks in this quadrant are easy to write off because they’re counterproductive and you don’t even know them. Ignore! Engaging won’t make you any better at what you do. And then rest easy, because having haters is proof your work is finding a wide audience and is sparking conversation. Own it.

The general rule of thumb? When you receive negative feedback that falls into one of the top two quadrants—from experts or people who care about you who are engaging with and rationally critiquing your work—you should probably take their comments to heart. When you receive negative feedback that falls into the bottom two quadrants, you should just let it roll off your back and just keep doin’ you.

Complement with Benjamin Franklin’s trick for neutralizing critics, Daniel Dennett on how to criticize with kindness, and Anne Lamott’s definitive manifesto for handling haters.

person: but what if your parents had aborted YOU

me: well okay for starters i wouldn't have been forced to hear that stupid ass comment you just made

An abusive man may embellish his childhood suffering once he discovers that it helps him escape responsibility. The National District Attorney’s Association Bulletin reported a revealing study that was conducted on another group of destructive men: child sexual abusers. The researcher asked each man whether he himself had been sexually victimized as a child. A hefty 67 percent of the subjects said yes. However, the researcher then informed the men that he was going to hook them up to a lie-detector test and ask them the same questions again. Affirmative answers suddenly dropped to only 29 percent. In other words, abusers of all varieties tend to realize the mileage they can get out of saying, ‘I’m abusive because the same thing was done to me.’

15-Year-Old African Kid Tells Madonna To Go ‘Have Sex’ with Herself

sourcedumal:

bitteroreo:

almightykushlord:

Dakarai Molokomme, a 15-year-old starving child from a small village in Zimbabwe, has just told , one of the most famous pop stars in the world, to  and f*** , the local media are reporting exclusively.

“Yes, it’s true, I told Madonna to go f*** herself. Do you want to know why?” Dakarai asked. “It’s the same thing every time with these snobby rich Americans. Every once in a while they come to show us their support for the so-called eradication of poverty by adopting a child from a starving family, but they actually do more harm than good. Transracial international adoptions are part of the white savior industrial complex,” Dakarai explained.

In further discussions with journalists from the media, the  stated that “none of the children here actually want to be taken away from their family and friends so they can be displayed as some kind of trophy in the homes of self-righteous singers or actors who want to score some points with the media and Oprah.”

“If they really want to help us, they should get Big Pharma to ship us some anti-retroviral drugs for the AIDS epidemic, or build schools and hospitals. If they don’t want to do that, then they can all go f** themselves!” the child told reporters.

The 15-year-old also stated that he would say the same thing to any one of those American or European “faux humanitarian posers”, except for Bono, whom he said he would also kick in the groin.

“Bono’s efforts to save the African savage from itself prove that the colonial imperative is alive and well,” Dakarai said as he walked with other village children collecting sticks to build a tree fort.

THIS IS THE RAWEST 15 YEAR OLD ALIVE

Give this child a medal.

This child is the wisest of us all. May he go on to grand things in life.

najarala:

najarala:

less “if you’re cis you shouldn’t use these pronouns” and more “hey if you feel good with those pronouns you’re probably not cis.”

help more people experiment with their gender and stop telling everyone who isn’t 100% sure of their transness that they’re cis.

When Madonna came out with her hit Vogue you knew it was over. She had taken a very specifically queer, transgendered, Latino and African-American phenomenon and totally erased that context with her lyrics, “It makes no difference if you’re black or white, if you’re a boy or girl.” Madonna was taking in tons of money, while the Queen who actually taught her how to Vogue sat before me in the club, strung out, depressed and broke. So if anybody requested Vogue or any other Madonna track, I told them, “No, this is a Madonna free zone! And as long as I’m DJ-ing you will not be allowed to Vogue to the decontextualized, reified, corporatized, liberalized, neutralized, asexualized, re-genderized, pop reflection of this dancefloor’s reality!

DJ Sprinkles, “Ball’r (Madonna-Free Zone)” from Midtown 120 Blues, 2008 (via seki-gahara)

I posted this back in June of last year and it’s more relevant than ever. Fuck Madonna.

(via nightgaunts)

let’s drag madonna some more

(via howtobeafuckinglady)

Madonna and the long line of crackas that wanna make a buck off lgbtq folk.. especially lgbtq folks of color…
Cracka

(via jcoleknowsbest)

(Source: prince-abibos)

selchieproductions:

Languages do not die. They don’t just grow old, weary and ready to embrace the coldness of death. They are killed, murdered by policies, intergenerational traumas, and external as well as internalised oppression all stemming from another language community which seeks to subdue it by force, either seen or unseen by the very language community being ushered towards the end of its existence.

redlipsmwauh:

Shoutout to the girls gettin chub rub but walking like your life isn’t falling apart because your inner thighs are on fire

golfdad1992:

Isn’t amazing how people don’t give a shit about misogyny until they can accuse muslims of it in order to justify their islamaphobia?

sugahwaatah:

piccolowasablackman:

michaelgrantillustration:

I love Sam Spratt, he’s one of my favorite artists. The way he does portraits just amazes me. If you want to see more of his work you cant find it here.

http://samspratt.com

Okay I would just like to say all those white artists in my classes complaining about how hard it is to paint brown skin. 😒😒😒😒😒😒 yeah sooo hard lmao

those same artist can paint brown soil, brown wood and labour over reworking beige skin over and over again doing washes and under coats…its not a matter of brown skin being hard but they simply do not care to put in the attention and care in painting it because its a brown person.

for them to paint brown skin properly like any other colour you paint, it would mean to treat the process of painting brown skin with the care, respect and labour and they can’t bring them selves to do but they can paint a trees bark really beautiful and carefully though

blvckexcelllence:

halaalpussy:

christel-thoughts:

thebloominuniverse:

This is the back of james’ head. He hasn’t washed or brushed his hair in months, and all of it was pretty much dreaded. We just picked all of it our except this big one underneath that was too far gone! White peoples’ hair does dread naturally my friends :)

how many times do we have to say this… LOC’D BLACK PEOPLE WASH AND TEND TO THEIR HAIR REGULARLY. THERE IS NOTHING “NATURAL” ABOUT WHAT YOU’RE DOING. IT IS GROSS. IT IS UNKEMPT. IT IS EVERYTHING BLACKS WITH NATURAL HAIR ARE ACCUSED OF BEING WHEN WE ACTUALLY ARE NOT THAT. HOW DO YOU NOT GET THAT ACCUSING US OF BEING DIRTY, BY ASSERTING THIS IS THE SAME THING AS BLACKS WITH LOC’D HAIR, IS SOME WHITE SUPREMACIST FUCKSHIT?

thats not dreads thats mange

Mange 😩😹